More and more couples are looking to make their ceremony more their own. One of the easiest ways to do that is to make sure that you choose the vows that work for you. Unless you’re restricted by religious tradition, many officiants welcome you to write your own. If you’re worried about adding one more thing to your to-do list, or you feel you’re not good at expressing your emotions, work with your officiant and have him or her write your vows for you.
And don’t feel as if you have to recite them either. It’s becoming more common to have your officiant recite your vows instead, freeing you up to actually focus and listen to what is being said. Not to mention worrying about stage fright and public speaking in front of a crowd!
If you do choose to recite your own, just remember, practice, practice, practice. That way, no matter how nervous you are, you know that there’s at least one part of the service that you know by heart.